Guys in this corner of the internet talk about the problems men face in the modern world. But they don’t often talk about the problems the next generation faces. This is easy for them, as they rarely have children themselves. But for guys who have children, or want children in the near future, there is a huge lack of quality information on being a father.
Enter: A Father’s Mission by Neil White.
A Father’s Mission is what’s needed for fathers to raise children in this modern world.
We now live in an age of uncertainty: economic, social, political. In this age of uncertainty, the role of the father is changing. Your role is changing.”
The Responsibilities of Being a Father
One of the benefits of fatherhood is that it grounds you. It gives you responsibility in that you must take care of a child, and you can’t go out and be a degenerate.
… having a son is like being given a loaded rifle–I wasn’t kidding either. To have the power to influence another human being is a dangerous task. How will you approach this responsibility?”
Besides paying rent and showing up to work on time, most men these days have few responsibilities. Yet, responsibility is essential for growth as a man. Having a child fills this void.
Valuing Your Heritage
Many men and women lament the idea of having children. They don’t want to give up clubbing, traveling and whatever other pleasure seeking activities they engage in by having children. I am not here to shame people in to having children, but rather to look at the reality of human nature.
You are only here because your parents chose to have children. And their parents before them, and so on and so forth.
I always ask myself: Who am I to stop this lineage?
Am I really so smart and wise that I can say that having children is a bad idea?
I don’t think so. And no, I am not having children just to honor my deceased ancestors, but it all factors in to being a man.
Like a runner in a relay, you are merely passing the baton o to your children so that they can pass it on to theirs and so on until the end of time. Your mission as a father is a great and noble undertaking. So grasp it and propagate the vision that will one day manifest into reality.”
A Great Book for All–Not Just Fathers!!
This book doesn’t just have advice for fathers–it has advice for everyone. There is a ton of great self-development advice in this book from health and fitness to socializing. What really stood out to me was the section on ‘How to Build an Awesome Book Collection’. Of course, I am biased, but this was really cool to see.
I wouldn’t say men who aren’t fathers should necessarily buy this book, but they would certainly benefit from it. I would recommend it though for men who are thinking about having children in the near or distant future. It really puts a lot of things in perspective. It’s also good to read advice from a man who actually has children, as opposed to guys without children LARP’ing on the internet claiming they are out to save western civilization.
I’m glad Neil sent this book to me. It is a must-read for current and future fathers. I will certainly be returning to it when I am a father.