They then wonder why in the world their life isn’t where they want it to be.
It’s quite obvious though: They never put in the work. They never went to the gym or ate healthy. They spent all their money and never attempted to make more of it. They never hit on girls or built good friendships.
Not only are they missing out on these great joys, but they’re missing out on what becoming a man really entails:
Becoming a man is a process, while a girl may mature into a women simply by biologically aging it is not the same with men. Many males die still boys, even if their biological age may be one hundred.
So how does a man get to this point?
Hard Work. Discipline. But most importantly knowledge.
If a man doesn’t have the right information to get started on his journey to self-development then how can he ever expect to reach his goals? In fact, discipline and hard work is useless unless you’re on the right path. This is the goal of The Primer by Charles Sledge—a road map towards a brighter future.
Topics of Interest
The book contained a wide variety of information which I address below, but a few facets stuck out to me in particular. One example is starting a business:
Entrepreneurship will require that you put in more work than others in the beginning. You will be working sixty plus hour weeks for one, two, or however many years it takes. In addition to your regular job you will have to put in time building your business. This is what stops most people. However if you dig in and pull through it is worth it.
Charles realizes this won’t be a simple task. You must realize that as well. As someone who has started a couple of websites and a freelance writing biz, I can certainly confirm the rewards of pursuing an entrepreneurial endeavor.
Something else that stuck out to me was building bonds with other men:
This is not something that can be postponed or skipped, it is absolutely essential for a man’s development. If you feel uncomfortable around men or have had bad experiences with men, you’re going to have to fight against that and reach out
I’m not the most social guy so this is something I need to work on. It’s also something I recommend guys get a handle on before they start pursuing larger things.
Charles also has a positive energy towards life and doesn’t leave any room for cynicism:
Life is meant to be enjoyed. What is the point spending your whole life working if you never get to play? Work is important but there is more to life. Developing or cultivating a love of life is something that takes effort and time. There should be no room for negativity or pessimism in your life.
A Broad Overview of Self-Development
Reading through the table of contents, I knew a lot of information was going to be thrown at me. And that it was. Charles even acknowledges it though:
Some of you may feel that this book was a bit broad or for some maybe even a bit basic. This was intentional. This book is after all a primer. This book is a kick starter. It’s designed to cause friction, to ignite a spark.
Being too broad was one of my first impressions of the book, but that was clearly his intention and there is definitely a need for that. Also, I believe if you read one chapter per day as the book is structured, it will be much easier to digest the content. You must make sure that you are actually implementing the suggestions though, and not just reading them.
I think that this book is best suited for guys who need a broad overview of these subjects. For guys who are new to the masculinity/red-pill/self-improvement niche and are wondering where to get started, this is a good place to start. As with this book you can expect to get insights on nearly any topic you could want be it health, wealth, sex or fitness.