“This communication is getting hard for me.”
I had been abroad for 10 weeks, and being in a long-distance relationship wasn’t easy (and in hindsight was a poor decision). She was feeling the pain, supposedly, and felt the need to end it.
It made no sense to me. I was coming home; couldn’t she just wait for us to sort things out?
I knew it was over though. There was no point in fighting it. She actually picked me up from the airport when I got back to school, but it was different. We were done.
There was no teasing, touching or sex. We were just… acquaintances.
I took the breakup well, but it left me with a lot of questions, namely: Why?
I moved on better than most guys could expect to—but that’s the problem. There are very few resources out there for how men can deal with a breakup, especially from a masculine, red-pill perspective.
Most internet personalities who talk about sex and dating are too ‘Alpha’ for breakups. Either they broke up with the girl and thought nothing of it (as they claim), or their girl broke up with them and they don’t share it with the world. While this benefits the ego, it does no favors for men who are genuinely suffering out there.
When couples break up, it is not just two people physically separating from each other, it is the loss of a relationship, love, friendship, habits and routines, complicity, dreams and plans for the future. Indeed, it feels like a close family member has passed away.”
Again, we can poke fun at guys who are reeling from a breakup, but that helps no one. We need a resource that helps men cope with their loss, pull themselves back up, and come out a better man from their breakup.
This is exactly what Joe does in Guide To Surviving A Break-Up: For Men.
I was happy to read the review copy Joe sent to me. I was familiar with his site Brave New Man, and respected his work and writing.
His book didn’t disappoint. Although I’m not currently going through a breakup, let alone in a relationship, this book would be an indispensable resource if that was the case.
In fact, if I ever know a guy going through a breakup, I’d send this book his way.
The guide is a brief, yet comprehensive action plan for how to go from getting dumped to being the man that you’ve always wanted to be. This is where it really shines.
Too many relationship books focus on the abstract emotional concepts of love and heartbreak. While fascinating in some cases, it doesn’t do us much good. Men perform best when they are given step by step instructions. If they stay on the path then there’s no way they won’t succeed.
Joe provides a 6-step action plan to not just getting over your break-up, but coming out a better man. I don’t want to give too much away, but the process includes improving your health, mindset, learning game and gender dynamics.
He also advocates going out and meeting new women, getting that first lay out of the way.
At this stage, your heart is probably still healing and you may not want to think about other women because you still miss her and do not want to get involved with anyone else. This is, however, the perfect time to learn about gender dynamics and start interacting with women again.”
One suggestion I would have made to the book is to have Joe include his own personal experience in relationships and breakups. At the end of his book in the ‘About the Author’ section, he mentions he got divorced after a 10 year marriage. By including his own experience, it would have created a deeper connection with the reader, showing his empathy for what they’re going through.
If you’re going through a breakup, I highly recommend that you give this book a read. And even if you happily single or in a loving relationship, this book is something you should have on hand just in case. There’s no point in waiting until shit hits the fan.
Click here to get your copy of Guide To Surviving A Break-Up by Joe MK on Amazon.